tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30855972842174593532024-03-13T23:50:15.449-04:00Our Little Miracle, Charlotte AmalieAmanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.comBlogger247125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-5728483600484186542012-10-14T14:45:00.001-04:002012-10-14T14:45:29.732-04:00Re:I apologize, my account was hacked. I have changed my password. <br><br><div class="gmail_quote">On Sun, Oct 14, 2012 at 10:44 AM, Amanda Farr-Knickerbocker <span dir="ltr"><<a href="mailto:afarr04@gmail.com" target="_blank">afarr04@gmail.com</a>></span> wrote:<br> <blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="margin:0 0 0 .8ex;border-left:1px #ccc solid;padding-left:1ex"> <a href="http://hankhatesyouall.com/blog/wp-content/plugins/akismet/news.html" target="_blank">http://hankhatesyouall.com/blog/wp-content/plugins/akismet/news.html</a><br> </blockquote></div><br><br clear="all"><br>-- <br>Amanda Knickerbocker<br><a href="http://understandingprematurity.com" target="_blank">understandingprematurity.com</a><br><br><br> Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-26244101254971980732012-10-14T13:44:00.001-04:002012-10-14T13:44:34.076-04:00<a href="http://hankhatesyouall.com/blog/wp-content/plugins/akismet/news.html">http://hankhatesyouall.com/blog/wp-content/plugins/akismet/news.html</a>Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-32230735879388753562011-08-10T18:22:00.001-04:002011-08-10T18:23:13.876-04:00We're LiveOk. Phew. I'm sweating writing this. But the day has come.<br />
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We're moving.<br />
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To Wordpress.<br />
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Please come join the party over at <a href="http://understandingprematurity.com/">understandingprematurity.com</a><br />
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You have all been our lifeline over the past year. Please, come join us. Follow us as we make this move. And be patient. I <strike>have no idea what I'm doing</strike> am trying to figure this all out. Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-33661511561504347392011-08-07T21:31:00.001-04:002011-08-07T22:30:39.811-04:00Letters to Charlotte: Progress<i>Dear Charlotte Amalie,</i><br />
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Last night, your nurse told me how you were trying so hard to make the "la-la-la" sound. You would go through the motions, desperately willing your body to function as your mind wished it would.<br />
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Yesterday, this was not possible.<br />
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This morning, out of the corner of my eye, I watched you effortlessly roll from your back to your front, push yourself up and practically fly into the crawling position.<br />
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Last week, this was not possible.<br />
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Right now, you are precariously perched on your feet, in a stance that cannot be comfortable. You are holding yourself up, leaning over Caleb's yellow dump truck, attempting to laugh at the laws of physics, as you recklessly lunge towards the wheels. Spinning them around and around, you throw your head back and laugh. Laugh at the world, baby girl, laugh as much as you can.<br />
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Last month, this was not possible.<br />
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Tonight, I will place you in your crib. In your own home, I will lay you down for a night of sleep and slumber. I will attach your monitors and push medicine through your feeding tubes. I will swaddle you as you smile and kick your legs. You're the only baby I know who is so ecstatic to be swaddled. I will sing you a song, and then walk into the kitchen to wash the dishes. When I finish, I will walk back to you, and find you sleeping. I will gently place your BiPAP over your face, and I will stand frozen for a moment, mesmerized by your image; hypnotized by your presence.<br />
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Last year, this was not possible.<br />
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Baby girl, if you are certain of nothing in this life, be certain of this:<br />
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<div style="text-align: center;">Anything, <b>anything at all</b>, is possible. </div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">And no one can ever count you out.</div><br />
<i>All my love,</i><br />
<i>Mama</i>Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-54413329661858849152011-08-03T13:59:00.000-04:002011-08-03T13:59:00.944-04:00Why Dad Should Never Leave The Diaper Bag at Home<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">That's exactly what you think it is</td></tr>
</tbody></table>Peter had the blessing of taking Charlotte to therapy today while I stayed home with Caleb. Sometimes, dads have all the luck.Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-228203156960129792011-07-31T12:19:00.004-04:002011-08-03T11:42:06.406-04:00In Which I Write About Something I Only Know TangentiallyI find myself in an odd position sometimes. Charlotte straddles the line between "normal" (what does <i>that</i> mean anyway?) and "special needs". Clearly, she has a lot of special needs. But now that she's not on oxygen anymore, her needs are much less obvious to the random person we see on the street. It takes a medical professional to realize the tube running down her leg is a feeding tube. Usually people just smile and say, "Her backpack is so cute! Where can I get one?" {Her feeding pump and formula are kept in a backpack that she wears on her back so her tube doesn't pull out. And really? You definitely don't want this kinda backpack, lady.}<br />
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More often than not, people see Charlotte, and not her vast amount of special needs. We hear all the time, "She doesn't even look like a preemie!" {which makes me roll my eyes, but I know,<b><i> I KNOW,</i></b> people are trying to be nice, so whatever} or "You'd never know how hard she's had it." Which is great and all, but it kinda ignores the incredible path we've had to take. Like we can just forget about the horrors we've experienced because she doesn't LOOK like she has special needs now. <br />
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On the other hand, it's true: Charlotte <b><i>doesn't</i></b> look like she has special needs. I cannot imagine what it is like to be the mother of a child who so clearly has special needs, especially cognitive special needs. Nor can I imagine what it is like to hear people throw around terms like , "You're so retarded" {<a href="http://www.r-word.org/">spread the word to end the word</a>} or, "Man, I was totally autistic!" knowing that people are comparing the syndrome your own child, the love of your life, has to an action or person that is being ridiculed. <br />
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Recently an article ran in GQ magazine, saying Boston had "a kind of Style Down Syndrome, where a little extra ends up ruining everything." There has been a very public outcry (<a href="http://brianskotko.com/index.php/blog">here</a> and <a href="http://noahsdad.com/gq-down-syndrome/">here</a> and <a href="http://blog.gretchenmather.com/2011/07/19/my-letter-to-gq-re-hurtful-down-syndrome-comments/">here</a> and <a href="http://www.northbridgetimes.com/Articles-c-2011-07-27-79627.113122-Letter-to-the-Editor-GQ-magazine-owes-apology-for-down-syndrome-comment.html">here</a> and I could go on), but only private apologies. It breaks my heart that people think that's OK. That someone thought, "Gee, look how witty I am!" instead of thinking about what a child with Down Syndrome, or an adult with Down Syndrome really <i><b>is</b></i>. <br />
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Thankfully, not everyone in the public media feels this way. Nordstrom and Target recently ran these ads:<br />
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<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://myupside.files.wordpress.com/2011/07/nordstromkids.jpg?w=318&h=331" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" height="400" src="http://myupside.files.wordpress.com/2011/07/nordstromkids.jpg?w=318&h=331" width="383" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://myupside.wordpress.com/2011/07/07/normal-nordstrom/">{source}</a></td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://heldts.blogspot.com/2011/07/nordstrom-and-toys-r-us-have-style.html">{source}</a></td></tr>
</tbody></table><br />
Look people, kids (and adults) with special needs are just that. <b>People</b> first and foremost. They are children who have grandparents, parents, brothers, sisters, teachers, therapists, caretakers, and friends who love and play with them. They are children who need more help along the way. They simply <i>have</i> special needs. <i>They are not defined by those needs, they simply have them</i>.<br />
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That girl you see in the grocery store isn't "retarded". She is a little girl who <i>has</i> "mental retardation" (a medical term that is often met with some controversy) or "intellectual disabilities" or "developmental delays." That boy on the playground isn't a "downs kid" he's a boy who <i>has</i> Down Syndrome. Those children own those titles. The titles don't own them.<br />
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And it's never appropriate to throw around terms like <b>you </b>own them when you clearly don't. So just don't do it. Just don't. Ever.Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-36406996504782022042011-07-26T17:20:00.000-04:002011-08-03T11:44:26.218-04:00Oh My<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen='allowfullscreen' webkitallowfullscreen='webkitallowfullscreen' mozallowfullscreen='mozallowfullscreen' width='320' height='266' src='https://www.youtube.com/embed/VVpGlVI2tdw?feature=player_embedded' frameborder='0'></iframe></div><span style="font-size: x-small;"><i><br />
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>Warning: Caleb may or may not be running around in his underwear in this video. That's how we roll around here.</i></span><br />
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I love this video. To me, it shows what Charlotte has become. Who she is. What she is capable of doing. It shows the love she has for everyone around her. It shows her hope; her faith. This video tells me that there will be hard days, <b><i>but she will be just fine.</i></b> When I watch it, I see a future of pillow fights and pranks pulled on siblings. I see a little girl who is determined to be happy, and a big brother who doesn't mind providing the entertainment along the way. <br />
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This video shows me that I have two beautiful, loving children. It shows me that no matter how rough the beginning may be, siblings can find a way to love each other.<br />
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It shows me that sometimes I worry a little too much.<br />
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It shows me just how blessed I am.Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-91506385389675910722011-07-25T10:33:00.002-04:002011-08-03T11:44:37.408-04:00Guest PostYou can read about us over at <a href="http://mylifewiththem.com/2011/07/what-friends-of-maddie-is-really-doing/">My Life With Them</a> today. Check it out!Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-68425158602225503302011-07-22T13:39:00.001-04:002011-08-03T11:45:21.268-04:00UpdateCharlotte has been doing really well lately. We just had a follow up yesterday and here are her stats:<br />
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<div style="text-align: center;"><b>Weight: </b>9.8 kilos (21.6 pounds)<br />
{15%tile for actual age/ 50%tile for adjusted age}</div><div style="text-align: center;"><b>Height:</b> 72 cm (28 inches)<br />
{2%tile for actual age/ not on the char for adjusted age}</div><div style="text-align: center;"><b>Head Circumference: </b>42 cm<br />
{not on chart for actual or adjusted age)</div><br />
<u><b>Head:</b></u> Charlotte has what's called "<a href="http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/microcephaly/DS01169">microcephaly</a>", meaning, her head is more than 2 standard deviations from the average head for age and sex. More specifically, Charlotte has micoencephaly, which is a small brain, thus accounting for the small head. {We know this because Charlotte suffered a pretty severe stroke in the cerebellum, leaving very little brain matter in that space} However, luckily for Charlotte, she doesn't appear to have a small head, so it's all good. Her pediatrician just wanted it to be an official diagnosis. Yay for more labels. :)<br />
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<u><b>Hearing:</b></u> A new one, right? Charlotte's had a bit of a "regression" in the vocal department as of late. Prior to our move, she was making vowel sounds, and the occasional consonant/vowel sound. Lately, it's only been noises, which is good, because it means she can manipulate the vocal cord, but bad because she's not making any progress verbally. We want to check her hearing to make sure this is not a factor in her speech delay. Right now, we're only going for the standard hearing test, but if she still has a vocal delay in say, four to six months, we'll have to go for a sedated hearing test. <br />
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<u><b>Lungs:</b></u> Doing well! We're weaning her from some of her diuretics, and so far, so good {knock on wood}. She's been consistently off of oxygen for over a month now, and we're thrilled to see how stable she has been.<br />
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<u><b>GI:</b></u> Still the same. J-tube feedings 18 hours/day. We're hoping that soon (in the next few months) we can start working towards G-tube feedings, and then possibly condensing those feedings so that they are at specific times (called bolus feedings) rather than the continuous feeding. The hope is that we can eventually get her to "eat" during regular meal times, and then start weaning those tube feedings so she can be hungry enough to eat by mouth. Basically, we've got a lot of therapy in our future. And I'm not just talking OT :)<br />
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<u><b>Developmental:</b></u> We've started with our new therapists here in California. We're seeing Occupational Therapy twice a week, Physical Therapy twice a week and Speech Therapy once a week (maybe adding another one on? who knows). Charlotte has started to crawl since we've moved her, and we're thrilled with her progress. She still has a problem with rolling over from her back to her front, so if she ends up on her back, she just pushes herself backward around on the floor. The back of her head will never have hair on it :) She is, however, transitioning from crawling to sitting, and from sitting to crawling. It's not elegant, but it gets the job done, and you can tell how excited she is about all of it. <br />
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<u><b>ENT:</b></u> The ENT team here has pretty much taken over the role of managing Charlotte's Sleep Apnea. Right now, that's probably her biggest struggle. Last night, she had 10 desats, a few into the 70's. She hasn't needed to be resuscitated in almost two months, but she does need repositioning and stim to bring her out of some of the more significant desats. She's starting to tolerate her BiPAP mask less and less, and honestly, I just don't know what to do for the poor girl. We have an appointment the beginning of August with the Airway clinic (pulmonology and ENT together) so hopefully they will have some better ideas about how to help her sleep. We still don't have a real reason why she's having the central apneas, and for that matter, we don't have a real reason as to why she's obstructing. We're mostly hoping at this point that she'll grow out of it. But that can take years (if it ever happens at all) and kids kinda need to sleep :)<br />
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Overall, Charlotte is happy. She's playing a lot more now that she's mobile, and its awesome to see her and Caleb play together so well. Basically, I just love this gal. She's a keeper (in case you were wondering!)Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-89991426508037635092011-07-16T17:01:00.001-04:002011-08-03T11:42:51.946-04:00New ThingsHey Readers,<br />
First, you know you guys rock, right? Good, glad we got that outta the way.<br />
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Second, I'm working on re-designing a few things around here, so if the blog looks crazy, just stick with it, I'll <strike>have my computer programmer brother make it better</strike> fix it ASAP.<br />
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Third, just as a FYI, did you know Miss Charlotte has a facebook page? I post there when there is a new blog post, and sometimes things end up there (ie when it is easier to pop a photo on facebook vs writing a whole post about it). <a href="http://www.facebook.com/pages/Charlotte-Amalie-Knickerbocker/214280225279257">Check her out.</a><br />
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Fourth, you can now subscribe via email. If I did it properly, it should email you when there is a new post. Of course, there's a real possibility that I did not do it properly. Let me know if it works.<br />
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Fifth, I have a new email set up for this blog. Have a question or a comment, but don't want to leave it on the blog? Go ahead and email it to me. cak.micropreemi at gmail dot com<br />
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Sixth, down here at the bottom of the posts there is now a place to share blog posts. Want to share something on Facebook? On Twitter? On Google Plus? Just click the image down there. Then the internet does something magical and viola, it appears somewhere else.<br />
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Seventh, you guys rock. Did I mention that? I did? Well, I mean it, really, I mean it.<br />
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Eighth, Charlotte's diaper really needs to be changed. Any takers? Is Caleb too young to do it?<br />
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Ninth, I've been invited to attend BlogHer '11 here in good ol San Diego. Also, I've been invited to join their advertising network. Let me know if it gets in the way or you hate it or you love it or you love me. Mostly, just let me know if you love me :)<br />
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Tenth, I have nothing. I've been writing nonsense for the last 4 items. You knew this already. And yet, you are still reading.Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-74806185733362384792011-07-13T15:50:00.083-04:002011-08-03T11:45:44.124-04:00Adjustments<i>Dear Charlotte Amalie,</i><br />
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We're all making adjustments around here. That father of yours is adjusting to being a *real* doctor (crazy, I know!). Your brother is adjusting to a new home, and new people. You are adjusting to new doctors, new nurses, and no oxygen (woohoo!)<br />
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I'm adjusting to it all, as well.<br />
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I think the thing I'm adjusting to the most is seeing you as a little girl. You're not my baby anymore. Someone once told me I was lucky, in a sense, because you would be a baby for so much longer. (Umm, thanks? Did you think that one through before you said it? No? Oh, OK...). But even though you aren't doing "toddler" things, I'm watching you slowly shift out of being a baby and into toddler land. Your face is getting thinner, your legs are getting longer. Your belly, while still impressively large, mind you, is becoming less of a belly and more of a torso. <br />
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You are also changing in non-physical ways. You are letting me rock you to sleep, something you haven't done since the early days in the NICU. You are laughing and playing with your brother. (You're also annoying him to death. #couldyoustopthat? #willyouknowhatthismeans?) You are exploring the world in new ways; trying to crawl, picking up toys, figuring out cause and effect. I watch you and wonder.<br />
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Do you know what a miracle you are? Do you know how much you have accomplished? Do you know that I live in awe of your strength, your resolve? Do you understand how I long for the future and fear it at the same time? How am I to teach you anything? How I am to guide you, when you have already guided so many; when you have been a source of faith and hope for those around you? For me?<br />
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I wonder if you are frustrated. If you know your potential and understand that you are delayed in reaching it. I wonder if you know that your body just doesn't work the way it should all the time. I wonder if you wish things were different.<br />
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<i>I wonder if I wish things were different. </i><br />
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I wonder how it is even possible that things have changed so much. So much change. You've gone to a grocery store, to church, to the pool, to Target, to Sports class with Caleb. The strangers in the isles and on the street don't wonder about you. They don't know. It's a miracle they don't know. I'm adjusting to the idea that others don't know our story. Don't understand the fight we've had and the battle scars we carry.<br />
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But you, my little girl, you're adjusting to a world with carpeted floors and swimming pools. You are focused on getting.to.the.other.side.of.the.room.<br />
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And like all past adjustments, your adjustment is so much faster than mine. <i>Your acceptance is whole. Peaceful. Complete. </i><br />
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I watch you and I realize that once again, I'm learning from you; I'm growing because of <i>your</i> strength. It's an adjustment, as a mother, I didn't expect to make.<br />
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But I'm adjusting. Thank you for making it happen.<br />
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<i>Always Yours,</i><br />
<i>Momma</i><br />
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PS. Caleb would like to nickname you Charlie, but pronounced "Shar-ley". I'm gonna go with no on that, right?Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-48964276581178710752011-07-13T03:46:00.000-04:002011-08-03T11:46:03.179-04:00Home Again, Home Again<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">After 3 failed IV attempts. Don't worry, we had 12 more.</td></tr>
</tbody></table>We're home! Ohmygoodness, that was crazy. Let's just say, Charlotte will never be a Red Cross Blood Donor.<br />
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We were admitted around 9:00 PM PST last night. 10 hours, A NICU nurse, 3 PICU nurses, a PICU attending, 2 attending anesthesiologists, and some sedation later, Charlotte finally had an IV placed. It took an hour after sedation to get a line in. When they finally were successful, two doctors placed IV's at the same time, so they left both of them in. By the time they wheeled Charlotte from the sedation room down the hall to her room in the PICU, one had already blown. <i>This girl does not like IV's.</i><br />
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Once we got the line in, we waited for another 4 or 5 hours before IR could fit us into their schedule. At this hospital, IR uses sedation when placing J-tubes. At CHOP, they just told the kids to suck it up. (I'm sure they did it as nicely as possible). Having gone through both experiences, I'm not certain that the trauma from placing an IV was worth the lack of trauma during the J-tube placement. At least that only lasts about 15 minutes. The IV ordeal was drawn out over several hours, and Miss Charlotte was convinced we were trying to kill her every time I put her on the bed.<br />
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However, it's all over now. Except for when it has to be replaced in three months. I think I might schedule a vacation conveniently at that time. {Peter doesn't read the blog, he'll never know :)}<br />
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Thanks for all the texts and messages of support. We know you are all probably burned out on this journey and our neediness.<br />
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Don't worry, so are we :)Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-45738026180649870462011-07-11T23:09:00.000-04:002011-08-03T11:46:08.683-04:00Back Again, Back AgainCharlotte pulled out her J-tube. (Actually, I pulled it out. But that's not important, right?) Here in California, that means an admission, not a simple visit to Interventional Radiology.<br />
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This is not awesome. But I'm pretending it is :) Woohoo....Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-35020642425438390022011-07-09T18:15:00.002-04:002011-08-03T11:46:32.980-04:00Catch Up Time<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Saying "See you later!" to Grandpa Knickerbocker </td></tr>
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Arranging for Charlotte to get to California was nothing short of an Olympic Event. The social worker at the NICU at NMCSD worked tirelessly for months to arrange everything. We're so grateful that we had someone to help us with the details. Without her, I'd still be in PA.<br />
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An ambulance came to pick us up from our house around 7:45 AM EST. We threw all the remaining items in the ambulance, strapped Charlotte down and headed to Philadelphia International Airport. From there, we boarded a jet, staffed with two pilots, a NICU nurse and an ER physician. We stopped once in Kansas for about 20 minutes to refuel. We finally landed in San Diego, at the Marine Corps Air Station. From there, we got on another ambulance and drove to the Naval Medical Center San Diego (NMCSD, the hospital at which Peter works).<br />
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Charlotte did really well on the flight. She was pretty entertained the entire time, falling asleep for the last leg of the trip. The staff on the plane was amazing and they went well out of their way to make sure we were both comfortable. The plane was loud, and the temperature varied wildly, but they catered a meal for me and made sure I had plenty to eat and drink. <br />
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We then spent a little over two weeks in the PICU, arranging Charlotte's home care needs and supplies. Caleb was a good sport, but he was definitely ready to say goodbye to the hospital room by the time she was discharged. Then he came home and realized we don't have the Disney Channel like the hospital does. Oh well.<br />
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We're getting adjusted to life here in San Diego. It mostly consists of cleaning up after the children, buying stock in sunscreen and "lounging" at the pool. I'm trying to convince Charlotte that getting in the water will not, in fact, kill her, but she is rather convinced of this and I think she just might be more stubborn than I am.<br />
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Which is a problem. But considering the problems we've faced over the past year and a half, I think we'll keep it.Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-40219700215825434842011-07-01T11:09:00.001-04:002011-08-03T11:46:58.148-04:00We're Home!Phew. The past two weeks have really kicked my trash. CA, on the other hand, has handled things just fine.<br />
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So fine, in fact, that she is now 100% oxygen free. Who knew that all she needed was a nice sea breeze and high taxes?<br />
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Charlotte's echo looked great, and the cardiologist is confident that her heart will remain fine without the oxygen. We've also gotten the go-ahead to only monitor her sat's while sleeping. This means that during her "down" time from her tube feeding, she is completely tube and wire free. For three whole hours a day. It's rather strange. I carried her around the house for the first time today. She's 16 months old. I carried my baby. It's rather surreal.<br />
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In other news, Charlotte is attempting to crawl as well. So far, I've seen her take about 3.5 crawls toward an item. That wore her out, though, and she has refused to perform since then. We'll get her going though.<br />
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We meet with the San Diego Regional Center and a Special Education Teacher today to map out a therapy plan for the little one. We have a follow up appointment with her primary care doctor on Friday, and hopefully then we can know who we still need to see and who we can say "chao" to without looking back.<br />
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Of course, all good news has it's counterpoint and Charlotte's stay was full of that. It appears that her central apnea is pretty significant. To make things difficult, we can't quiet figure out why she has central apnea. She's too "old" for apnea of prematurity to still be a problem, and her MRI revealed that she does not have a malformation of the brain stem, which often causes central apnea. Which leaves CA as a bit of a mystery. Neurology also noted that she has hypotonic CP, although, at this point at least, the diagnosis is more to qualify her for services than it is an actual forecast of her abilities. And finally, her eye doctor told us today that while her eye sight looks great, her field of vision is reduced by about 50%. It's the question I have avoided asking, but there it is. She has about 80 degrees of vision, and beyond that, her peripheral vision is non-existent. But hey! That's 80 degrees she in all sense should not have. We'll take it!<br />
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Sigh. I love it.Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-90023058703361645142011-06-20T00:35:00.001-04:002011-08-03T11:47:07.701-04:00We're in California!So.<br />
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In the past week, we've moved across the country, spent 7 nights in the PICU (just as a "let's get to know Charlotte" admission, nothing medically wrong with her), spent 3 nights off of oxygen, met 7 new specialists, changed her CPAP to a VPAP (basically, a vent, without intubation), and discussed two different surgeries.<br />
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We've also attended numerous "here, you need to be friends with the other members of your residency class" activities, tried to entertain the big brother (thank.you.San.Diego.zoo), and dropped my father off at the airport and received a reality check (What? You mean we won't be living with Grandparents? But who will watch Caleb?).<br />
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Not to mention the 764 phone calls (give or take a few) to insurance companies, medical good suppliers, and nursing agencies. <br />
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This upcoming week, we are looking at a sedated EEG, another echo (they want to look at her heart off of oxygen, to make sure it really looks good, without the effects of oxygen), a roundtable discussion on Charlotte's plan of care, and hopeful a discharge home.<br />
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What have you been up to?Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-18354970657720634032011-06-10T10:25:00.001-04:002011-08-03T11:48:42.527-04:00What a Difference a Year Makes<div style="text-align: center;"><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">June 14, 2010</td></tr>
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Our little miracle has come a long way in a year, hasn't she?<br />
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<div style="text-align: right;"></div>Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-67911486630281703962011-06-08T16:25:00.002-04:002011-08-03T11:48:20.313-04:00Under the WeatherCharlotte's a bit sick today, and so I think we all need a "pick-me-up" post. 'Cause I'm oh-so-good at writing those, right?<br />
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<a href="http://knickerbockernotes.blogspot.com/2011/06/he-did-it.html">Peter graduated</a> from medical school this week! Woohoo! Here's to a few more years of never seeing him :) All jokes aside, we're so proud of his accomplishment. Peter has worked so hard. He's done so much to get here. At a young age, Peter was diagnosed with Dyslexia. In some stroke of luck, Pete's teachers were amazing. They worked in a way that we would all hope teachers would work when our children have special needs. He was held back for half of 2nd grade, attending 1st grade for half the day, and 2nd grade for the rest of the day. During those early years, he would sit up at the teacher's desk while she read him his test and he would verbally take the test. He couldn't read.<br />
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In fifth grade, he was able to start reading picture books. He was in special ed classes until middle and high school when he started to mainstream back into "regular" classes. His senior year, when he was in all mainstream classes, he had an instructor who would meet with him once a week or so and go over all his classwork. This instructor would meet with his teachers throughout the week and find out what Pete needed to work on, what tests were coming up, what projects were due.<br />
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His school is does not have a large tax base. It's mostly rural, Amish countryside. They don't have large donors, or wealthy incomes to rely on. But they did the best with what they had. They never let him label himself, or allow him to slack off because he was in special ed. They (and his parents!) required him to fulfill his potential. Nothing more. Nothing less. They told him to keep going. To work hard. To find a way that <i><b>he</b></i> could learn, and then go with it.<br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg_x9EwW7OE05tjefEI5_PFSxPGNvKSkZ1GIdU67S_4A8tqP7_lO7-kVm23tKtiVvdwRixJ7ywKUexVR54gFfUAs7MlV67Llsvh2PrCT9pz-j-XIR7_XxwpgZ6Ye9DN8W3FuC8gSnyjhxs/s1600/IMG_0045.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg_x9EwW7OE05tjefEI5_PFSxPGNvKSkZ1GIdU67S_4A8tqP7_lO7-kVm23tKtiVvdwRixJ7ywKUexVR54gFfUAs7MlV67Llsvh2PrCT9pz-j-XIR7_XxwpgZ6Ye9DN8W3FuC8gSnyjhxs/s400/IMG_0045.jpg" width="300" /></a>As I watch Charlotte struggle to achieve milestones, or regress in areas that were once strengths, I think of her father. If this man, who hardly had a "normal" course, can walk across that stage, fulfilling his life long dream, then Charlotte can accomplish hers. No matter what holds her back, no matter what "others" may say, Charlotte will succeed.<br />
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She may not become a doctor. She may not run a marathon. But she will accomplish anything she wants to. It's not about what <b><i>I</i></b> want her to do. It's not about what others say she is capable of doing. If she can accomplish what <i><b>she</b></i> sets out to do, then she has succeeded.<br />
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And so have we.<br />
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Congratulations, Peter. We're so proud of you and all that <i><b>you </b></i>have accomplished as well.Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-76125816814479232892011-05-29T00:11:00.001-04:002011-08-03T11:58:56.784-04:00Of Course, It's Always Followed By Bad NewsSo much for our winning streak.<br />
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Charlotte's sleep study results were less than stellar. She continued to have pretty severe obstructive sleep apnea, accompanied by desaturations of her oxygen levels while on CPAP pressure of 5. When they tried to increase the pressure, she had less Obstructive apneas, but more central apneas. They tried switching her to BiPAP and she went to straight central sleep apneas.<br />
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Awe.some.<br />
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So we're kinda taking the, "We're stuck with this, let's make the most of it" course of action right now. This sleep study has at least told us that, no, we're not crazy, her sleep apnea has in fact gotten worse over the past few months. (We kinda thought we were staring to make things up). Currently we are increasing the amount of oxygen going into her CPAP, and maintaining a CPAP pressure of 5. Her pulmonologist figures that if we can keep her oxygen levels constant, regardless of apneas, then at least she isn't sustaining brain damage while sleeping. (She was consistently maintaining sat's into the 70's, which is not the worst she's ever done, but it's not recommended.) However, her cardiologist might not like the extra work load that is put on the heart when you fail to, you know, umm, breathe. So we'll increase the oxygen until her appointment on June 6th, where the pulmonologist warned us the T word might be used.<br />
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Tracheostomy.<br />
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To be sure, we are a long way off from this procedure. However, Charlotte's heart is not exactly stellar, and her sleep apnea is only pushing it closer and closer to a rather ugly cliff. Pulmonary would like to see her tonsils and adenoids removed first, and we agree. (Even though ENT has said that a T&A will not do anything, as her tonsils and adenoids are not enlarged. Whatever.) If a trach is placed, it will only be done after we've removed all other possibilities. Cardiology, I'm certain, will recommend just watching her heart and making sure that there are not substantial changes to its structure, and/or function as her sleep apnea continues. Should one of those variables change, we'll try medications to combat the stress placed on the heart by the sleep apnea.<br />
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Sigh.<br />
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It's just like her pulmonary doctor said, "Charlotte, well, Charlotte... She's just one complicated little girl."<br />
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That she is. That she is.Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-36229722616496985292011-05-24T22:15:00.001-04:002011-08-03T11:59:37.653-04:00I Love Good NewsSeriously. Today rocked. Here's the results from Charlotte's NICU follow up.<br />
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She was 11 months, 3 days corrected and 14 months, 28 days actual at the time of this testing.<br />
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<div style="text-align: center;"><b>Cognitive:</b> 10 months</div><div style="text-align: center;"><b>Expressive Language:</b> 8 months {Biggest gain. She tested at 3 months just two months ago.}</div><div style="text-align: center;"><b>Receptive Language:</b> 8 months</div><div style="text-align: center;"><b>Fine Motor Skills:</b> 12 months {Another major gain, and our highest score-- so thrilled!}</div><div style="text-align: center;"><b>Gross Motor Skills:</b> 7 months</div><br />
Holy crap. I cried. I cheered. I clapped my hands when she did things like banging two objects together in midline. <br />
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Can you believe this is the same girl?<br />
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The same girl who could wear my wedding band up to her shoulder?<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Today. Almost 15 months</td></tr>
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We love this girl. We love her regardless of test results, regardless of progress. But we're so proud of her. We celebrate the effort she makes each and everyday to succeed. We applaud her dedication to life, her ability to bring joy to everyone she sees. We know that there will be tests that bring disappointing news. Oh how we know that.<br />
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But today, today, we are focusing on those test results that feel so few and far between. Today we are believing that those kind of test results will be her future.<br />
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We could get used to that.Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-18435632105202390362011-05-23T20:49:00.000-04:002011-08-03T12:00:23.941-04:00Sleepy SleepyTomorrow we head back to CHOP for another sleep study. This one will tell us whether or not the hours of fighting with Charlotte to put the darn CPAP on every night are actually doing any good. Cross your fingers.<br />
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We also have an appointment with the NICU at CCH tomorrow, to track Charlotte developmentally. Crossing our fingers that she's testing as well as we think she is :)<br />
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And because she's much cuter than anything I have to say... here are some pictures:<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Post nap, prior to getting her O2 back. She's so happy to have the CPAP off!</td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">We call it her wrestling helmet. The CPAP head straps go on before she falls asleep, and then we add the mask once she's in a deep sleep.</td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Unless, of course, she falls asleep while you are holding her. Then you just have to keep holding her, because it might be another six months before she'll do that again.</td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">We were told to put the CPAP on her during the day while awake so she wouldn't be frightened by it if she woke up with it on. Yeah. I don't know about that..</td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">I could eat.her.up. Yummy.</td></tr>
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- Posted using BlogPress from my iPhoneAmanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-86723919128067926762011-05-20T14:41:00.001-04:002011-08-03T12:01:03.195-04:00FeedingOnce a week, we have Speech Therapy, which primarily focuses on feeding. Or tasting. Or just plain accepting the spoon.<br />
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Miss Charlotte Amalie has never "eaten" by mouth. The most our little gal has ever eaten in a sitting is about 1.5 ounces of milk from a bottle. And yet, day in, and day out, we sit down with her, three times a day, to show her just how fun it can be to eat.<br />
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We play with food (put it on her tray and let her explore), and we taste food (tiny, tiny, TINY amounts on a spoon). We try boluses of food, we try scant amounts of food. We've tried holding her feeds, we've tried changing her calories.<br />
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Charlotte's response is making me worried about her when she becomes a teenager. "Meh." She's already apathetic.<br />
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I know, I know, she won't always be on the tube. And the reality is that she's come a LONG way in the past six months. Six months ago, she would gag and retch and turn blue at the mere sight of the spoon. Or when you opened food near her. Or if she could smell it, or see it. Or if she just didn't like you. (Not really, at least, that's what I'm telling myself).<br />
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Now she will reach for the spoon and put it in her mouth. As long as there isn't any food on it.<br />
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The really irritating part is the regression. Charlotte was a sickie-head (I hand out with a three year old too much) last week, with a simple GI bug. She weathered the illness remarkably well, despite her high temp and constant retching. (At one point she puked through her nose. I'm no doctor, but I'm fairly certain that with a Jtube AND a nissen, that is just not supposed to happen). Prior to her illness, she was allowing foods in her mouth without gagging. She wasn't swallowing them, but that's an entirely different battle.<br />
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This week? Nada. Gagging and retching again with the "introduction of food into the oral cavity," as per her therapy notes. It's just a nasty cycle. She has a negative experience with eating, so she gags to protect herself. Gagging and retching cause a negative experience, so she's more likely to gag the next time food is introduced.<br />
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I'm exhausted by it. I'm frustrated that four tastes of baby food is "remarkable progress" for little Miss Charlotte Amalie. I'm frustrated that we've got years of this darn GJ-tube in our future. I'm frustrated that we've bypassed bottles and sippy cups. (I don't know why, those things are a pain to clean. But I miss them none the less).<br />
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I'm frustrated that I have to accommodate her tube. Can she wear this outfit? How do we bathe her? Can she sit on the beach? How does the hole in her abdominal wall affect her core strength? How much tummy time can she do before her stomach contents leak out? (Gross, I know. It's actually one of the least gross things that goes on in our house... disturbing.)<br />
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I'm frustrated that I have to love it. I have to love this darn tube because it keeps her alive. Thriving. Plenty chubby, let me tell you. I frustrated by the power it has over our lives. By the unyielding influence it exerts.<br />
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I'm mostly frustrated by the fact that the less CA eats, the more Oreos I seem to consume.<br />
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Just sayin'Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-11740944284932703072011-05-17T17:16:00.001-04:002011-08-03T12:01:25.254-04:00Not Again...I need a favor again! Shannon, a mom on a micropreemie support group I belong to, is the mom of Ashton, born at 24 weeks. She's had another pregnancy that ended at 18 weeks, with a little boy, Hunter. She's pregnant again, and is 23 weeks along right now. This week she received some pretty harsh news, that despite having a cerclage, her cervix is shortening pretty significantly.<br />
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Head on over to her pregnancy blog and send your wishes of support and comfort. <a href="http://www.you-just-have-to-believe.blogspot.com/">You can read her story here.</a>Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-64642364420991085332011-05-12T19:32:00.001-04:002011-08-03T12:01:48.694-04:00Mother's DayIn my <a href="http://mormon.org/" target="_blank">church</a>, the "sermon" on Sunday is given by members of the congregation. A week or two (if you are lucky) prior to your "assignment" a member of the clergy asks you to speak and gives you a topic. Traditionally, you are asked to speak if you are new to the congregation, as an "introduction" talk, and you are typically asked to speak if you are leaving the congregation. Since we're heading out to California, we knew this was coming.<br />
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Peter managed to weasel his way out of giving a talk by moving sooner than the Bishopric expected, and I was left with the task of giving our farewell talk.<br />
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I was asked to speak on Mother's Day, with the topic of "The Virtue of Mothers". A few asked to have a copy of the text, so I figured I'd just put it here on the blog. And this way, my mom can read it, too.<br />
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So happy Mother's day y'all. Happy Mother's Day.<i> </i><br />
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<i>Last year I spent Mother's Day with my daughter in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit. She had gained not quite twice her body weight since birth, tipping the scales at a whopping 2 pounds, 1 ounce.</i><br />
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<i>I was laying down that Sunday for the obligatory post-church nap, when we received the phone call. Charlotte was not doing well and was being placed back on the ventilator. As we rushed back to the NICU, we learned that she was requiring quite a lot of support. We spoke with the neonatologist and gravely agreed with their plan. We'd try one more course of heavy steroids to attempt to lower her ventilator settings. If that did not work, we would remove care.</i><i> </i><br />
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<i>I learned a lesson that day, and many times since. It's a lesson I probably should have learned, from watching my mother, grandmothers, and mother-in-law, but one I never really quite grasped. I felt like the Grinch, in his moment of epiphany, only my lesson was not about Christmas, but rather, the role of mothers. </i><br />
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<i>Motherhood, I learned, is not the same idea as I had been told. It wasn't the same role that I had been taught in oh so many <a href="https://lds.org/young-women/personal-progress?lang=eng&&X-Forwarded-Scheme=https">Young Women's</a> or <a href="http://lds.org/handbook/handbook-2-administering-the-church/relief-society?lang=eng&query=relief+society">Relief Society</a> lessons. Motherhood, I learned, was so much more.</i><br />
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<i>Sure, there are parts of being a mother that involve driving kids to school, tucking them in at night, and counseling them about decisions. Sometimes motherhood does in fact involve getting pregnant and physically delivering a child.</i><br />
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<i>But more often than not, motherhood has nothing to do with the physical acts we so often associate with being a mom.</i><br />
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<i>The virtue of mothers is that it lies within us all. Whether we be biological mothers, step mothers, adoptive mothers, mother-to-be, mothers of full term kids, or special needs kids, or special-because-they-are-our kids. Whether as women we have children, are desperately waiting for children, or have buried our children. Whether we're not sure if we even want children or if we can't stop trying for "just one more." Whether we work outside the home, or in the home, or are employed by our own families. The virtue of mothers lies within us all.</i><br />
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<i>In fact, just to be a little controversial, I'd even say it lies within our husbands, fathers, and brothers. Every Sunday while Charlotte was in the Chester County NICU, Peter and I would spend the afternoon with her. It was a special time, our time to spend together, just the three of us. Each Sunday, Peter would spend that time with Charlotte, barely the size of his hand, doing Kangaroo Care. During this time, Charlotte's vital signs always improved, and she was the most stable of any point throughout the week. Sitting there, watching my husband warm our tiny little girl on his chest, I was reminded that some of the most important moments in mothering come from those whom the world would not recognize as mothers.</i><i> </i><br />
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<i>In my congregation growing up, there was a wonderful couple who did not have children of their own. Jeff was our <a href="http://lds.org/pa/display/0,17884,4657-1,00.html">home teacher</a>, and became a second father to me. His wife, Bonnie, worked in the library at church. Despite never bearing a child of her own, Bonnie is one of the most poignant examples of the virtue of mothering. A young man in our ward struggled with social and academic situations. Often viewed as the troublemaker, this boy found it difficult to related to others. Yet every week, you could find him sitting in the library with Bonnie, as she spun her own wool, telling her about the snakes he saw, or the stones he collected throughout the week. Bonnie did not try to befriend him, she simply befriended him. She did not act interested, she was interested. She may not have tucked that boy in at night, but by the genuine smile on the face of a young man who was often forlorn, everyone knew- Bonnie had the virtue of a mother.</i><br />
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<i>My own experience in mothering has not been the one I imagined as a child. Despite our circumstances, or maybe because of them, I've come to believe that few experiences with mothering are as we imagined. Few are the mothers who fit the idolized fantasy: marry the prince, have a baby (or four), enjoy the task of raising the perfect children, and step back to watch them continue the cycle.</i><br />
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<i>For so many of us, true mothering occurs when that fantasy is shattered. We don't get married, or we can't bear children, or our children are sick, or die, or grow up only to go astray. Maybe we find ourselves divorced or widowed, with children still to raise. Maybe we find ourselves grandparents, raising another generation long after we though we would be done. Maybe our husbands lose their job, or we have chosen to be the breadwinner. Maybe in the quiet moments of honesty we admit that we're exhausted, overlooked and worn out.</i><br />
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<i>And yet, in those moments, when our lives are nowhere near the picture painted in Sunday School lessons or Family blogs, we pick ourselves up. Many times, very slowly, many times after great delay. But we pick ourselves up none the less and continue the work. </i><br />
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<i>It is a work very different from the one we may have imagined. And yet, the blessings of that work are just as unimaginable as the work itself. Watching Charlotte this morning, nine times the size she was a year ago-- an incredible eighteen times the size she was at birth-- I am struck by the power and magnitude of mothering. Today, my children test me in ways I had not foreseen, and I am blessed by that same measure.</i><br />
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<i>This is not to say that mothering is all difficulties or quick adaptations. Part of the virtue of mothering is the ability to savor the moments. Like when Caleb points to a man with a pony-tail and very clearly asks, "Why are you a lady?" Or in the more uplifting moments, when we sit down to dinner and he quietly exclaims, "Mommy, I love spending time with you."</i><br />
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<i>The virtue of mothering comes as we learn to embrace what we have, the situations we have come to live in and we simply make the most of it. That virtue fills our lives as we learn to stop comparing our inside to everyone else's outside.</i><br />
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<i>May you all have the most Happy of Mother's Days.</i></div>Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3085597284217459353.post-16006420951532904672011-05-11T17:20:00.000-04:002011-08-03T12:02:07.795-04:00Vacation Pictures<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">All the Farr cousins. Believe me. This is the best shot we could manage.</td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Charlotte at the beach!</td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Siblings. Charlotte 14 months actual, Caleb 3.5 years</td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Charlotte and her cousin, Sophie. Sophie was SO good with Charlotte.</td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Have chupi, will travel. Not to pacify, mind you, rather, just to chew on.</td></tr>
</tbody></table>The last week of April my siblings, parents, and paternal grandparents rented a house in the Outer Banks. It has been almost 5 years since all of my siblings have been able to attend a vacation together, so it was great. Even better, this is the first time all the cousins have been together. Last summer almost all of them were present for my sister's wedding, but Charlotte was still in the NICU, so she was absent.<br />
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Not to get all emotional or anything (that's a hint that I'm about to get all emotional), but seeing Charlotte together with all the other cousins was pretty amazing. Last year at this time, Charlotte was a pretty sick little girl. She was on the oscillator vent and we weren't really quite sure if she could get off of it. To see her sitting around, spending time with her cousins was a gift I just wasn't expecting. It was pretty amazing. At one point, Maeli remarked, "I think Charlotte really likes me! I love spending time with her." I may or may not have run to the bathroom and cried my eyes out. Cried out some big old tears of pure joy.<br />
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Maybe.<br />
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But I wouldn't tell you if I did.Amanda Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com1